The Challenges of Being Childless in the Workplace
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A woman questioned my choice of not having children and expressed pity for me.
Being childless has affected my career advancement and financial stability.
I confronted the woman about her assumptions and faced isolation in the workplace.
よろしくお願いします
I was making small talk at a work function when a woman asked if I had children. I said no. She expressed pity that I hadn't experienced life's greatest joy and said she couldn't understand why women these days prioritize careers over family. She added that parenthood is a prerequisite for being a good manager since women without children lack the maturity necessary to lead teams.
Carolyn, it wasn't my choice not to have kids, and this is a painful subject for me.
In my 20s, I would have brushed this off and changed the subject, but now I am in my 40s struggling to save for retirement on a salary that falls far below that of my married-with-children peers in the same profession. I have been passed over even though I have always had outstanding performance evaluations. I am always expected to work overtime and take a hit for the team because I don't have kids, yet I am also resented and belittled for it.
So, this time I calmly asked her, "Do you think having a genetic disease makes a person immature? Do you think watching an 8-year-old relative die from said genetic disease makes a person immature? There are a lot of reasons people don't have kids, and a lot of paths to maturity."
That did not go over well. Now my presence clears the room.
passed overとtake a hit for the teamとmy presence clears the room はどのような意味でしょうか？よろしくお願いします
１。passed over はどのような意味でしょうか？
pass over は下記の６の意味です。
（他の子持ちはみんな昇進していくのに、私は）そのままにされた。
２。take a hit for the team はどのような意味でしょうか？
take a hit は、下記のように「非難を受ける」という意味です。
https://eow.alc.co.jp/search?q=take+a+hit
（チームの出来が悪い時は私が）非難を受ける ＞ チームの失敗は私のせいだとされる
３。my presence clears the room はどのような意味でしょうか？
私が居ると部屋が空っぽになる。
お礼
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